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Standing Up to the Bully

Bully making a fist“They keep saying I have a big head! Big head! Big head! They keep yelling it. I don’t have a big head, do I?? They won’t stop!”

I was startled as my friend’s eighth grade brother burst through the door and ran to his mother’s lap. I had never seen a teenage boy cry in emotional pain in all my seven years of life. We were in the middle of a pretend world of Barbie when I couldn’t help but eavesdrop on the conversation that was ensuing in the family room.

“No, you don’t have a big head. Absolutely not! You are the most handsome boy in your class,” I heard his mother emphatically declare in anger. I am now very familiar with this intense maternal anger when someone messes with momma’s baby bear, but as a second grader I had never felt that emotion. Continuing to act like I was playing Barbies, I dropped Ken in his corvette and peered around the corner just in time to see this neighborhood mother take her son to the bathroom mirror. She had him stand there and look at his genetic makeup, complete with red, tear-stained cheeks and puffy eyes.

“Look at your head! It is THE perfect size for your body! It is the same shaped head as your father and your grandfather. That is NOT a big head.” Her son’s sobs began to subside as he started to believe what she was declaring. His breathing slowed, and I could hear the confidence in his voice growing as he agreed with her assessment and strongly stated, “Yeah! I don’t have a big head! I don’t have a big head!” He wiped the moisture that had collected between his nose and lip with his sleeve and sucked in a big breath as he headed for the door. As he confidently marched out to his world of neighborhood emotional bullies, I could hear him yell at them, “I DON’T have a big head!”

Kids being kids, right? And yet this is exactly what our enemy does to us. The Bible tells us that Satan comes to rob, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). Our enemy accuses us and taunts us in our thoughts. You are a failure. Your rebellious teenager will always be like this. You don’t have enough money. But just like that reassuring mother, when we read what the Bible tells us about who we are and who God is, we can yell back to our enemy, “I am not what you say I am! I am who GOD says I am!”

Aren’t you glad that Jesus is the way, the TRUTH, and the life (John 14:6)? We can know and live in the truth by knowing Him.

Here are some great reminders of who you are:

Matthew 5:14—You are the light of the world.

John 1:12—You are a child of God.

John 15:15—You are part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of Christ’s life.

John 15:15—You are Christ’s friend.

John 15:16—You are chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit.

Romans 8:14-15—You are a joint-heir with Christ, sharing His inheritance with Him.

I Corinthians 3:16—You are a temple of God. His Spirit dwells in you.

P.S. You don’t have a big head.


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  1. I am so excited to read this message to my 7th graders tomorrow! Our theme in chapel services this year is focusing on our identity, on who God says we are, on believing God’s Word is true and how we walk in that belief. Such a great word! Thank you for sharing, my friend! Love you!

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